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Post by kajol on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 9:30

Controversial.... but do you do it?
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Post by Adele S on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 9:35

If I had kids, I would.

Smacking is good at times (nobody says you should smack the child in the face and give him a blue eye) but I really think children needs to be disciplined more.

Time out - I have seen that it works but I can't see how you can't combine time out and smack here and there.

That's my opinion

If it is any consoliation. I do smack my furbabies when they are naughty! hahahaha whistle and it is kind of the same thing cause they are my children (with fur) and they can't talk back (which is a huge bargain for me)

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Post by elleznom on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 9:45

I smack them, we have a "plankie" and last week they were fighting in the car so I just grabbed my empty lunch box next to me and smacked whatever was in the way at the back...

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Post by kajol on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 9:55

lol Monz that sounds funny.

Yep we have a wooden spoon, she is given the 1, 2, 3 chance to sort herself out and then if nothing gives...I give a smack...
and then there are times that warrant an immediate smack...
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Post by Haz on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 11:15

Yep, but they don't happen often, and I find it more effective when you save the smacks

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Post by Karien on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 11:29

Monz, you made me think of this:



We also have a wooden spoon named 'Moeggepraat' and it's hardly ever necessary to use it, you can just show it to them and their ears open up automatically!
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Post by LilianJ on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 12:02

We have Lekker Maak! We also hardly use it because Zeke is so afraid of getting a smack. And like Kajol does, we give you 1,2 and maybe a third chance. And sometimes an immediate smack is needed.
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Post by elleznom on Thu 11 Sep 2014 - 12:42

I just show "plankie" and they start crying, I also now drive with an empty lunch box on my seat, always...

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Post by Adele S on Fri 12 Sep 2014 - 6:01

hahahahaha Monz! So funny

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Post by Alleycat on Fri 12 Sep 2014 - 10:11

Jip I do with Genevieve not with Cadence

When she has a real "vloermoer" then I get in there ... coz putting her in the corner then does shit and I refuse to sit up with that kind of crap .... ok it's been a hectic week with tantrums :Sad
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Post by Honey on Fri 12 Sep 2014 - 13:12

Most definitely, although I rarely need to. I give one warning and then he know, next is kierangtjiesbraai.
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Post by Lilly on Fri 12 Sep 2014 - 15:15

Yes, the boys get smacked on their rear ends and afterwards a good talking to about what they did wrong. I was brought up like that and I turned out pretty okay (Ithink)
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Post by Doogz on Mon 15 Sep 2014 - 6:34

I smack when necessary... but it somehow does not hurt enough as taking things away or switching off the TV... sometimes she is sooo cheeky if I smack... she says "oh that doesn't hurt!" then I could go all kinds of crazy! I just have to woosah & walk away with whatever she was playing with or the remote!
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Post by Kerryw on Fri 19 Sep 2014 - 10:24

No not ever

We couldnt in the beginning as the boys were too small to understand mommy and daddy can smack but not them so we stopped when Kian thought he would help smck Connor. We used time out very effectively, we would close them in the toilet for the 1/2 min time out as they could not work the door handle and it was boring in the toilet.

Now we threaten time out and they behave but if it is really bad behaviour they loose something they really like for a day or two. Once it was Kians shoes I put them high on a shelf and he had to wait a whole day to get them back despite many tears.

I find I follow through more often if I am not threatening smacks and that is important in discipline.

Adele maybe my cat would be better behaved if I smacked him once in a while Smile
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Post by Adele S on Mon 22 Sep 2014 - 7:32

hahahahaha Kerry

Look I do think that when they are older, taking away something they really like is for sure the best to do.


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