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Post by Lilly on Tue 20 Aug 2013 - 14:46

I am going to completely loose it! D is driving me insane, he is going through snotty/ know it fucking all / back chatting / wise ass phase and I cant take it anymore, its like his manners went down the drain with the bath water! I cant handle it anymore and I am not sure what to do about it??? I can't stand children who are disrespectful and who has no manners! I'll take the terrible two's, horrible 3's, f*cking 4's any day!
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Post by Lilly on Wed 21 Aug 2013 - 6:08

I had a talk with D last night and we'll see how it goes.. I am thinking a reward chart with black dots and gold stars? anyone used reward charts? how does it work? And DH thought its a good time to introduce pocket money, earned by keeping his room tidy, picking up his toys and putting them away.

I just feel that he needs to learn that actions have consequences.
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Post by elleznom on Wed 21 Aug 2013 - 7:18

We do the reward chart and it helps a lot! For every 10 stars he gets an ice cream at spur, 20 stars a small toy, 50 maybe a new blu ray movie or out to go see a movie and 100 a new LeapPad game. (We are only at our first 10 now, we don't dish them out left right and centre.)


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Post by TarrynT on Wed 21 Aug 2013 - 9:44

I use a reward chart and it works SO well I totally agree with Monz though dont just give for anything and never take away... I dont believe in that. BUT I do threaten which is also not good I suppose. But it works for us. We also do rewards after 10, 20 etc.
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Post by Lilly on Wed 21 Aug 2013 - 11:22

I am def going to give the reward chart a go! Thanks Monz & TT!!
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Post by Kerryw on Wed 21 Aug 2013 - 14:21

I use a reward chart on and off I find the interest in it wears out sometimes. then they need a break. But I have been known to imprison favorite things for bad behavior including bad words. I threaten most times but once in a while I go through withit so they know I am serious.

just whatever is popular at that moment goes (once it was a pair of shoes another time a toy) then I keep it locked away for 1-2 hours no matter how many apologies I receive and their behavior improves.
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Post by emerald on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 11:45

Litlly, my boys are going to be 5 in about 2 months and its funny that i also said to my DH that it felt as though C was going through his terrible 2's again. Do you think it is a phase.

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Post by Lilly on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 11:50

I hope its a phase! Seems like the talk we had helped!
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Post by TarrynT on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 11:52

I was gonna say sometimes the reward chart does wear out they get too sharp for u!!! Than u try something else and then bring it back. Talking also helps alot hey? U will be surprised how much they take in.
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Post by Lilly on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 12:05

He is growing up, and I can actually tell him what is acceptable and what not.
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Post by emerald on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 13:09

I tried the talk, and he promises me the world, but it just doesn't happen.

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Post by Honey on Thu 22 Aug 2013 - 14:40

we do the reward chart as well. There are five things he needs to work on, they vary but manners is one of them. Thats 30 stars a week and he needs to get 20. If he reaches twenty he gets to pick an outing for the weekend like the museum or aquarium or any of his favourite places. We initially started by working towards a certain number but he lost interest, so now we do the chart daily.
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