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Post by Kerryw on Fri 19 Oct 2012 - 7:30

yup the boys were up again this time throwing a tantrum over milk??

but anyway took ages to get back to sleep and then I started feeling bad. DH has told me earlier in the evening that MIL made a statement a while ago that she refused to pay for any fertility treatments we may have??? Not tht we even asked her but still. She has paid for SIL to be a stay home mom for now????

but then I started thinking am I asking too much of DH to pay for IVF when we have 2 children already? it is not fair on him or the boys maybe and when we have a 3rd it will be more expense. I bring in my half of the living expenses but extra ordinary expenses he funds.

and we are looking to move shortly.....

suddenly feeling guilty of my need to have one more.

Might also be stress my supervisor is on at me again and I must finnish this thesis soon.
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Post by Haze on Fri 19 Oct 2012 - 8:17

I just think that what ever will be will be, i'm not saying don't try fertility treatments but if it's meant to be it will be.

I know how I stressed when we unexpectantly got preggers with D, I was earning like R4000 pm, we had just moved into a bigger house (the previous house, the bond was paid) so we had a bond to pay and I was studying, when I was about to start maternity leave, the company that had told me that they were paying me decided that I hadn't been there a year (I was there 9 months), I found a new job while on maternity leave and then got retrenched when D was 9 months old .... I stayed at home until he was 18 months and then the company I was at - had a split - I went to a new co and there was actually no "position" there for me and I found this job...

What i'm trying to say is that if it is meant to be it will be and everything will work out - at the time I was so stressed that things were not going to work out - but they did... I'm not saying sit back and expect it to all fall into place but if you make a conscious decision to make it work and plan it properly you can make it work

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Post by elleznom on Fri 19 Oct 2012 - 8:37

Bluntly, screw her.

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Post by Kerryw on Fri 19 Oct 2012 - 9:34

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Thanks guys - thinking about things in the middle of the night is not good
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Post by Haze on Fri 19 Oct 2012 - 9:40

ya lack of sleep makes EVERYTHING worse

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