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Post by Shury on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 10:11

Hallo everyone

My friend referred me to your webiste. It sounds so interesting... Like a world I need to be part of.

My history: trying to conceive for about 9 years. Each year when I have a wedding anniversary it seems like I say "ok now another year added to trying to have a baby... " I am more positive at the moment and feel kind of hopeful.. but some may know how it can be like a roller coaster. You excited & positive one moment & suddenly feel down, frustrated and filled with self-pity. Its sometimes a very sore spot for me to talk about...can't believe I'm writing this post even.

Anyway... I went through the whole In-vitro fertilization, beginning of last year & it was unsuccessful. I think it was one of the hardest things in my life to get through since I had so much hope of it being successful. In my mind I saw it this way... my tubes were blocked so I couldn't fall pregnant on my own so doing the IVF should be as easy as pie since they will not go via my tubes but take multiple eggs out & fertilize it that way... so I was in total shock when my doc told me all 7 eggs they retrieved was abnormal... I didn't know how to handle that... I was in such a state of self-pity & took a very long time to get over it. Physically & mentally it was tough. I couldn't believe it cost me R18 000 and that it all came to an end so quickly. The whole process was more than I could handle. What started so exciting ended up so fructrating... even the hormone injections gave me nightmares at a later stage.

Then later the same year I actually had to have surgery again (this was my 4th operation) because they thought (because of the symptoms) that I had severe endometriosis that they thought was attached to my bowel area as well. I had the op & there they discovered it was not as they thought but cleared some other problems & then actually did something great that was not planned - they worked on my tubes repaired, tested it at the end & told me it will be able to work now. I paid R18000 for the IVF cos medical aid don't cover that. & for this op only about R5000 I think I had to pay in... it was like a miracle.... The only thing now is that its 7 months after the last op and I'm waiting patiently for something to happen without putting too much pressure or strain on me or my hubby... (you know planning the right times - counting your ovulation days etc)

Where to from here?.
Shury


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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Tanja on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 10:23

Hi Shury. Welcome to OPM. We hope that you will be able to find all the advise here what your need.

You have been throught a lot. I feel so sorry for you.
I've never been in this situation but I will pray for you that everything will go well and that you will find your miracle soon.
God Bless you. big hug

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Mandri on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 10:29

Hi

Welcome to OPM! Hope you will find all the advise and support here that you need!

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Shury on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 11:13

Thank you Tanjavr & Mandri...

Appreciate your prayers!

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Alleycat on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 13:15

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Kirsten on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 14:15

Welcome to the forum. The ladies are a great help here and you can be as honest as you want!
Not in your situation so cant offer more help, sorry, but hopefully someone else can give you some advise.

what fertility clinic are you with and what did they say after the op?

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Karien on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 14:26

Hi!

Welcomegroup

Has your hubby been tested?

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Kerryw on Fri 20 Apr 2012 - 16:02

HI

Sorry for all your pain. Did the doctor say why he thought your eggs were all abnormal? Because although your tubes are fixed is the problem with your eggs fixed?

I know I had to go on glucophage to reduce my insulin resistance to improve egg quality.

Also the rule is after 35 if it takes longer than 6 months you should see a Dr. Maybe it is time to get a second opinion.

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Dishearten on Mon 23 Apr 2012 - 11:13

Welcome

I don't really have advice to offer, but I will pray for you. I do however agree with Kerry, find out about your eggs and see the dr. Also try the digital ovulation kit to establish whether you are actually ovulating and when.

Good Luck

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Shury on Mon 23 Apr 2012 - 11:14

Hi ladies

Thank you for your responses...

I gave it a few months after the last op, now its 6months. Guess I need to see dr again - will schedule it for sometime in May. Yes my hubby was tested. The thing about the eggs - the dr told me after the IVF and after they found all eggs to be abnormal, I have 2 options either getting an egg donor or giving 1 more try for the IVF so that they can be sure if it's a permanent thing for my eggs to be abnormal. At that time I went through too many emotions & depression that I just put everything at a halt & so to say out of my mind... Then after 9 months I got serious pains and ended up having the last op in September of 2011. I have actually forgotten about the unresolved qustion of the eggs... I guess I was too excited about the tubes they worked on & told me it should be working now & I remember my dr went on a vacation for a few weeks & I never made an appointment again.


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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Twinky on Mon 23 Apr 2012 - 11:58

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Hope you'll find all the answers you need

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by Lameez on Mon 23 Apr 2012 - 15:15

Hi Shury, welcome to OPM. Really tough road you have been on, I also have blocked tubes, have done 6 ivf's in total, 3 failed and 3 full cycles but no pregnancy. With the advice of my very good friends on OPM I finally went for a second opinion and will be going for my 3rd Lap end of May to check for endo and also make a decision on my blocked tubes. I would follow go back to the dr and check the egg issues, it's very frustrating I know. Few women have also been Inositol, helps improve egg quality. Every bit helps. I pray that you get your natural BFP and do not have to go the IVF route. My question is if your tubes are fixed now maybe you don't have to do expensive IVF and maybe they can do IUI? Which fertility specialist are you with?

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Re: trying to conceive for 9 years...

Post by suyai on Wed 2 May 2012 - 8:03

Soory about the pain you have been through IF cost a lot emmotionally and financially hope your dream of becoming a mommy comes true sooner than you expected here you'll find all the support you need welcome!

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