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Post by LouisaB on Mon 8 Aug 2011 - 13:07

Good day

I've come across this forum quite a while back, and since I don't really have any TTC problems, I still like to read the posts as there are some very useful information available. Also, I feel quite comfortable to read the posts as all the ladies here are very kind.

I didn't really post on here because I don't really have TTC issues as such, and thus feel a little out of place. But, I guess, everyone of us have our fair share of misery, it just comes in different forms.

To tell you a little about myself...

I got my Senior Certificate and started working just as I finished High School. I then met the most gorgeous loving guy and we got married when I was 21. As he was British, we decided to make a living in London and relocated there. Soon after arrival, we realised he was terminally ill and he passed away when I was 23. No kids were born in this marriage.

I came back to South Africa, and I soon remarried. Biggest mistake. Didn't think clearly at the time. Too young and too heartbroken to make a clear decision. Nevertheless, two boys were born out of this marriage (Ruan and Tiaan) . Ruan is 8 years old and Tiaan is 2 years old. Althoug a 6 year gap, their birthdays are a week apart. So, we have a fun time in May Smile

Unfortunately, we got divorced shortly after Tiaan were born and I've been raising the two kids mostly on my own. Just over a year ago, I met someone again and we've been living together for the last 7 months. Things have been going really well. My boys have accepted my boyfriend and the four of us are very close.

My dad passed away 2 years ago and my mom has been very saddened by his death. She longed for him and unfortunately she also passed away on 30/07/2011.

Life is just so weird .... what a give and take WTF Just as we had my mom's funeral .... I decided to do a HPT because something just didn't feel right.
Clearblu Digital confirmed it - 3+ weeks shame

It's actually quite sad ... my previous pregnancies I phoned my mom first. And everytime she was so excited for me. This time there is no one to call .... except the father. But, I'm not sure how to break the news to him .... anyways, I'm very happy. Really hoping it's a girl!
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Post by LilianJ on Mon 8 Aug 2011 - 13:41

Hi Louisa and welcome. So glad you decided to join in the chatting.

I am so sorry for your losses and also that you had to go through so much.

My dad passed away 5years ago and soon after his death my mom became ill, stroke after stroke. And finally last year we laid her to rest. I feel for you with regards to your mom. When my mom passed away last year April my son was almost 4months old. And it was really sad but I had my son to comfort me.

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I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and that you get the GIRL you want Smile

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Post by Alleycat on Mon 8 Aug 2011 - 19:06

Hi Louisa!

My innige meegevoel vir jou verlies. Bear love Baie geluk met die swangerskap, ek hoop jy het 'n baie gesonde termyn en ek is seker jou vriend sal baie gelukkig wees met die nuus!

Van waar is jy as ek mag vra
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Post by DJMommy on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 5:45

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Post by LouisaB on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 13:27

Thanks everyone!

Just a quick update. Bf didn't take it well at all! Been ranting and raving since Monday.

He wants an abortion. I don't. Well, I'm not making any decisions at the moment. If worst comes to the worst, I'll think about adoption. Crying or Very sad

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Post by LilianJ on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 13:42

Aah so sorry. Please think about this carefully. Bear love
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Post by Natasha on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 13:54

Hi there Welcomegroup
Im so sorry about your parents.
Plse reconsider the abortion as i feel a baby is a gift from GOD.
Adoption is an option,but could you really give your baby that you carried and cared for 9 months away.
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Post by LouisaB on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 13:57

I'm not sure Natasha. I'm so confused. I really don't want to raise this baby on my own. That's his ultimatum. Either the baby goes or he does
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Post by Natasha on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 14:19

Then im sorry to say but he should go,cause this baby did not ask to be born.
Sorry to be harsh but im strongly against abortion,maybe cause it took me years to concieve.Where you on any contraceptives?
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Post by LouisaB on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 14:22

I agree with you Natasha. No, I wasn't on contraceptives. Nor did he use protection. We have discussed it before I got pregnant and he didn't indicate that he didn't want to have a child ... this is why his behaviour is so confusing
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Post by Natasha on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 14:25

Maybe he is just shocked that it happen so sudden,but then he should have used protection is he did not want a child,give him some time maybe he will cool down and accept the baby.
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Post by LouisaB on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 14:25

You are so right. That's exactly what I'm going to do. Thanks for the advice
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Post by Alleycat on Wed 10 Aug 2011 - 19:02

Good luck and I really hope things works out
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Post by emerald on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:00

So sorry you are going through this. A baby is a gift from God and you guys were suppose to be celebrating together. Never choose a man over your child as the child does not ask to be born but you guys knew the risks.

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Post by Sash on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:20

I'm sorry to hear about your tricky situation. I'm sure he's just very shocked and with time he'll learn to accept and even learn to love this new little miracle.

If there is one piece of advise I can give, it is to pray for him. Nothing is impossible with God and only He can work in your partners heart. Keep praying and praying, even if it takes months. I PROMISE you, things will turn around and you'll be happier than you ever expected possible. And your partner will surprise you with his excitement!
Do it for your baby, if for no other reason.
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Post by LouisaB on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:27

You know what Sash ..... after reading your post I have made my decision. I'm keeping it, come what may. It's mine. Even if I have to raise the baby by myself...

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! What you are saying is so true. I'll definitely pray for him.

Thanks to everyone for your support
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Post by Sash on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:32

I knew you would! I already prayed for you and your partner!
And now I'm crying!!! (these damn hormones!!)

You'll NEVER regret it, that we both know!! God doesn't make mistakes, but He does bring things into our lifes as part of His bigger plan! And this baby is exactly that!!
Please keep me updated on you partner, I want to know when he changes his mind, coz he will!!
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Post by LouisaB on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:37

I will Sash thank you! I'm also in tears now. I just know I'm making the right decision
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Post by Sash on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 8:39

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Post by Alleycat on Thu 11 Aug 2011 - 19:51

Ok now I am also crying my heart out!!! I am so happy you decided to keep your baby! I will too keep you and your partner in my prayers

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