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Post by Lilly on Mon 27 Jun 2011 - 20:58

Ladies,

I ask you to please say a prayer for one of my dearest friends, her brother was diagnosed with testicle cancer many years ago and the treatment left him sterile, Dr's told them, that even with medical help their chances of conceiving is almost 0, so after countless treatments and 8years of TTC, in January they got a natural BFP!!

My friends sis in law is now about 22/23 weeks pregnant, a while back her gynea suspected Trisomy 18 (Edwardson Syndrome) the test came back clear, but her gynea was still very much concerned, because their lg's head was way behind, so she was sent for a MRI last week and they saw a neurologist today who confirmed the diagnosis microcephaly, Dr said that the brain is severely underdeveloped and that the baby wont live longer than 6months, they are now faced with what must be one of the hardest decisiona ever, to to keep the baby or terminate the pregnancy!

so please, I ask all of you to keep them in your prayers.
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Post by Chantalle on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 6:19

Ai! :Sad Crying or Very sad Shame that is just so sad. :Pray: Keeping them in my thoughts & prayers. Please kup Lilly.
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Post by Lilly on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 7:31

Will do Chantalle
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Post by Doogz on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 8:09

omw... shame that is heartbreaking.... they are in my prayers!!!!
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Post by Gabby on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 8:13

oh my word. That is the saddest thing.
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Post by Sheena on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 8:19

OMG, this is history repeating itself.

Lilly, this is awful. I am so so so so so so so so so sorry for your friend.

I hate this Trisomy crap!
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Post by Guest on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 8:27

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Post by Landie on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 9:26

Hell this is really bad. praying for them.
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Post by elleznom on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 11:26

I am so sorry... :Pray:

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Post by Sheena on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 11:32

Lilly, it is a very tough decision but tell her that she needs to look into everything about this syndrome.

There is a Trisomy foundation as well as a lot of personal stories on the internet.

Obviously she needs to make her own decisions but she needs to be informed as to how this will effect her baby and how hard it is actually going to be.

It is soooooooooooooooo damn heartbreaking!
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Post by Lilly on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 12:43

My friend says, that her mom said, they are leaning towards termination but I am not sure, its devastating, for so long they hoped and prayed for a child of their own, only to have their dream crushed!
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Post by Sheena on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 13:00

It is terrible and I know it is a hard decision but when it happened to Eileen I read up a lot and I watched loads of personal videos etc and after watching those the decision for me was very easy. In most cases the poor baby suffers tremendously and chances are he/she won't even make it to 6 months. That would be pushing it.

I know in my heart I would not want my child to suffer & that is pretty much the bottome line. It is not like Downs where you have 30 odd years where your child can live a happy life. Trisomy is evil, painful and just downright awful and in most cases you only have a few moments or a couple of days but those days are filled with pain and suffering.

So terribly sad. This is making me very teary!
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Post by Lilly on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 13:31

I know this hits very close to home, after Eileen lost her boy. I just cant understand why life must be so cruel, women drinking and doing drugs fall pregnant all the time and end up having healthy babies they cant support, while there are people out there, like this couple, who has everything to give, enough love and enough money to give a child everything and more and yet they are being punished!
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Post by Sheena on Tue 28 Jun 2011 - 13:48

I know exactly what you are saying. Also why such a traumatic way of going about it. If for any reason it was not the right time let the body do it naturally. Why have to make a person make this decision.

Really does break my heart.

A friend of DH's says this every single time we see him: "People should be forced to get a licence before being allowed to have children".

It is so true. Some people just should not have kids, ie the druggies, prostitutes etc etc. Okay in some cases they turn their lives around but you know which types I am talking about. It does make me rather MAD!

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Post by Lilly on Wed 29 Jun 2011 - 16:46

They have opted for termination & they will do an induction tonight! Crying or Very sad
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Post by Gabby on Wed 29 Jun 2011 - 18:10

Aw that's so sad. Shame but I am sure that they have thought well and hard to come to this decision. It has to be the right one.

Why these things happen to people I will never ever understand
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Post by Lilly on Wed 29 Jun 2011 - 18:51

I know Gabby, its mind baffling and so unfair! I believe they have given it much thought & that it wasnt an easy decision, they went for 2nd and 3rd opinions and the prognosis stays the same, their lg's brain stopped growing, and the Dr said even if they decided to carry on, there is huge possibility of premature birth before 28weeks and even if she was lucky enough to make it 40w, chances that the baby would be born sleeping is also very high. App its a genetic thing, so all sibs on both sides need to be tested
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Post by Chantalle on Thu 30 Jun 2011 - 6:17

Ai shame, I feel so sorry for them! :Sad Crying or Very sad
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Post by elleznom on Thu 30 Jun 2011 - 6:31

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Post by Sheena on Thu 30 Jun 2011 - 8:48

Lilly, I know this sounds calous but I know they have made the right decision.

I pray for strength for them as it is a very DIFFICULT, guilt filled and traumatic decision and will probably take a VERY long time to deal with.

If she battles maybe you should let her get in touch with Eileen as there is no one better than her to understand your friend's feelings.

She needs to take comfort knowing that she has done her duty as a mother to protect her child from suffering and pain. Her LO will be able to rest in peace in a place for beautiful and peaceful than she can ever imagine.

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Post by Lilly on Thu 30 Jun 2011 - 8:50

Thanx Sheena, I will do so! xx
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