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Post by Mariska on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 11:53

Hi Ladies

I hope you are all well.

I need urgent advice.

As you all know we are in the process of adopting and it is semi open. My MIL is looking after this ladie's little girl and she told my mom that she must be at the baby shower WHY I don't know. I don't know what to think or feel or do. PLEASE if anyone can help I will really appreciate it alot.

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Post by Mich on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 11:58

oh Mariska, thats a very difficult situation, i dont know what to say.

i hope one of the other ladies here that have been through this can give you advice.

is your baby shower going to be before or after baby is born? i think it could feel a bit uncomfortable if she is there.
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Post by Mariska on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 12:00

Hi Mich ,Thanks. it is going to be before like a week or two. I really don't know what to do.
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Post by Haze on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 12:06

hmmm, I wouldn't be comfortable with her there but having said that I do understand from her side... maybe discuss it with your social worker

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Post by Mariska on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 12:07

Haze please explain as I really don't understand. Please don't take it the wrong way, I relly don't understand
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Post by Adele on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 12:08

I don't think that she should be at the baby shower. It will be your baby shower.
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Post by Pandora on Mon 7 Mar 2011 - 19:39

We had a closed adoption, so I never met the BM, and I am quite happy with that. I would personally not have wanted her at my baby shower. I do agree though, discuss it with the social worker, explain your feelings, and ask her to speak to the BM too. They are trained in these things and really understand it from both sides.

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Post by Hannah's Hope on Wed 30 Mar 2011 - 15:26

Hi Mariska,

Please PM me or email me at hannah.almostpregnant@gmail.com


Thanks,

Hannah
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Post by Kerryw on Mon 11 Apr 2011 - 6:22

Good luck Mariska a semi open adoption must be a hard thing to do for both of you.

Can you maybe not have two showers one with just family that she comes to and one with your friends for jsut you. So you both get what you need emotionally?
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