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Post by Sheena on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 10:55

Hi

My name is Sheena.

I was referred to this website by my cousin Eileen Shaw who has relied on the support of everyone here during her horrid ordeal of losing Brayden as a result of Trisomy 18.

As this is my first time here I am not sure of all the jargon so will just type and hopefully I will learn as I go.

I am a very happily married 29 year old who has been with her amazing husband for 12 years. Last year we decided that it was time to start trying for a baby. The idea was to go off the contraceptive pill in Dec 07 and allow my body a break from all the hormones prior to the start of our “proper trying” in Dec 2008.

In hindsight, had I known what was in store for us, I would have never wasted my money on contraceptives in the first place!

To cut the long story short, due to strange occurrences I went to see my gynae who diagnosed PCOS. I actually do not know much about this condition as my gynae has the bedside manner of a brick and automatically assumes that patients know what he is talking about and has failed to explain anything to me in depth. All I know are bits and pieces that I have learnt from searching websites on the Internet and that I ovulate very irregularly if at all.

I was prescribed a course of Provera to force a “starting point” and have been on four courses of Clomid. The next step I am told is ovarian drilling which I have decided to put on hold until Jan 09 after consulting with a fertility specialist and finding out more about my options.

I suppose my real reason for joining this group at this stage is to possibly find out more about what I am dealing with and what my options are.

Right now I don’t know what my emotions are. I look at some of the other stories on this website and I feel like an idiot for even thinking I have it bad when I look at what others have had to go through.

I think I am also angry that this is happening. I have such an amazing relationship with my husband and our babies were meant to be conceived through the “fairytale” that our relationship is and not through doctors telling us when and how we should do things.

I don’t think I have given up hope yet as this is merely the first step of our long journey and I am sure we still have many options to pursue.

I am quite surprised at my positive attitude and the thought that if it never happens, I just have to accept it as God’s will and happily carry on life as it is. My theory is I have never had a baby so will never know what I am missing BUT in the same token this could just be my protection mechanism kicking in and pushing everything to the back of my mind into the DENIAL compartment. I mean what if this is it and there will never be a baby?

Are all these feelings normal?

Can anyone with PCOS recommend a good fertility specialist? I have been told the team at Morningside (VitaLab – I think) are great and to stay clear of Sandton Medi-Clinic! Any suggestions from those who have worn the t-shirt?
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Post by Kim on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:04

Hi there Sheena

Hope you enjoy your stay at OPM. You have come to the right place.

Unfortunately I dont have knowledge on PCOS, but I'm sure one of the other ladies will be able to help you.
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Post by Mpums on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:32

:Hi2: Sheena Welcomegroup Hope you get your BFP very soon.
I Dunno about PCOS.
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Post by Natasha on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:40

:Hello: sheena, Welcomegroup
I also have pcos,i am currently with Vitalab (DR VOLSCHENK)
He is very good,i have heard and seen remarkable results from him.
I personally would recommend him.

Hope you get your bfp soon.
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Post by Mandri on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:45

Welcome to OPM Sheena! I really pray that you get your BFP soon!

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Post by Sheena on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:50

Thank you all for replying so quickly. Looks like Eileen was right. There is a lot of support here and I look forward to getting to know and chat to everyone.

Hopefully I can learn more about PCOS so that I can start understanding what I am dealing with!

I never realised pregnancy was "rocket science" and that so many people were in the same boat! I thought this was meant to be easy!
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Post by Mandri on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 11:55

Dooi also has PCOS - so maybe she will be able to give you some more info.

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Post by Thully on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 12:37

Welcome Sheena
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Post by Dooi on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 13:05

Hi girlie, welcome to this wonderful site, as you will see the ladies here are VERY supportive and understanding, feel free to post ANYTHING you like at anytime, we'll make sure (well, one of us at least) that we have an answer for your question... here is some info on PCOS.

Basics are that PCOS is a metabolic disorder that can cause hormonal imbalance and a whole menu of symptoms including irregular or absent periods, problems with your fertility, acne, hair loss, weight gain, excess facial hair, diabetes, high blood pressure, fatigue and mood swings. Symtoms can be mild or severe. Around 10% of woman have PCOS.

To give you an example... lets say a "normal" woman would have 5 follies each month, witch grow bigger and bigger untill ovulation, then one (or sometimes 2 - if you're lucky) grow so big that it "burst" out (release an egg) and then it get's impregnate. In our case, woman with PCOS we have lets say 30 follies, which grow bigger, but can't grow that big to burst due to the minimal space.. it cause us NOT to ovulate and therefore can't get preggers. You will have to go for a lap to laser it away , as well as a good eating plan, some woman are on Glocophage as this has a lot to do with your insulin and also need to follow a good LOW GI DIET, it helps, with some exercise as well!

That is PCOS in a "small version"... whom are you seeing dear?
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Post by Doogz on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 13:24

Hi there Sheena Girlie wave
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Having PCOS isnt a losing battle!!! Iv been on clomid cycles as well... & that was at the very beginning of my journey... I had ended up with horrible pains as well & went thru 4 gynaes & a lap & D&C before I found the one who FIXED me ;) First of the pains were due to a horrible infection that I had developed a year and a half prior... I also had an insulin prob due to my PCOS so he had then put me on glucophage & BOOM within weeks I was preggies well of cos I wouldnt say he was a miracle worker... he jz knew what to treat .... I know God has given us this miracle.... So dont lose hope jz be positive :flower:
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Post by Pumi on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 13:37

Hi there :Welcome3:
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Post by Sheena on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 13:59

Thanks Dooi and Doogz.

I feel better already knowing a bit more about PCOS and knowing I am not alone.

Based on internet advice etc, I have already taken steps toward a healthier lifestyle regarding food. Not that I have ever really eaten badly as I have always battled a bit with my weight so have always watched my eating. Funny that this kind of explains things there as well.

When I was 16 I had a corpeus leuteum tumour removed from my right ovary. I wonder if this ever had anything to do with PCOS? All very interesting and quite scary to think that I actually know NOTHING about the way my body actually works.

Even on the clomid my cycles were so irregular. Some 28 days and some as much as 34. Also made me wonder how the hell you tell if you are actually ovulating. This is my first month off the Clomid and I have had some strange spotting but presume that is just because my body is confused again.

I am currenctly seeing Dr Kriel at Olivedale Clinic but as I said am not too happy there. I think he is good at what he does but I battle as he does not explain things which does not help me as I need to understand what is happening!

Well I suppose for the time being we just take in one step at a time and deal with the obstacles when we get to them!

Tks again for the support and explanations. Really makes this whole process a lot less daunting.
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Post by Doogz on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 14:06

ur welcome :flower: ... why dont u find someone that ur comfortable with? It makes a world of difference... cos the gynae I saw before my current one would never wanna listen to a word I had to say & always knew better & he was the one who told me to live with the pain till I fell preggies.... thank goodness I didnt listen to him!
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Post by Sheena on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 14:20

I definitely plan to go somewhere else. I think being happy with your doc is the first step to a productive relationship. I am going to the fertility place in jan and then from there i will start the quest for a new gynae.
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Post by Sheena on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 17:36

Doogz - do you live in Joburg and who is your gynae?
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Post by DJMommy on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 17:38

Hi Sheena and welcome to the family!

Dont feel silly about your problems! Everyone here has their own problems and they are all huge to us!

I hope you find the love and support that you need from the girls here!

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Post by Ilze on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 18:05

Hi there Welcomegroup
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Post by Melissa on Mon 17 Nov 2008 - 18:11

Hiya Sheena!

Welcome! Here is hoping for your BFP soon Smile

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Post by Doogz on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 6:17

Hi Sheena... Girlie wave
Nope I dont live in JHB.. Im in Durban & with Dr Rampersadh at westville hospital.
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Post by Sheena on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 6:37

Tks - will have to keep up my search in Jhb! I am sure I will find someone who I am happy with. My last gynae was fab but he moved to Australia!
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Post by Lameez on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 6:43

Welcome to OPM, I am also a PCOS sufferer but am not on medication yet as I have so much more problems to deal with I have to go for IVF so I think putting me onto medication will just be a waste of money. I hope you stay is short here and you will definitely find all the support you need. We all travel a long road and sometimes it becomes too much too bare but we are here for each other and we help each other through the bad times and even laugh together through the good times, I know you will just love it here.
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Post by Sheena on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 6:50

Thanks so much Twinkles. I am only just starting my journey so have a feeling that the support here is going to be most valuable.

I did not realise there were so many PCOS sufferers! Wonder what causes is it that it is so common!
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Post by Lameez on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 6:53

Well they are not completely positive but most of the time it is hereditary, one of your family members probably suffered from it and now you have it. What I read is that you actually suffer from it at a young age and you just don't know it, it just becomes a problem when we become adults.
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Post by Cmom on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 8:00

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Post by Sheena on Tue 18 Nov 2008 - 8:07

Twinkles - I am convinced my mother had it but she denies it - she probably never knew it at the time. She battled to conceive, had many miscarriages and eventually at the age of 32 had my sister and I followed soon after.

I also think I never knew about this cause apprantly the contraceptive is the treatment for it (obviously if you don't want to conceive) so the fact that I was put on the contraceptive at a young age to regulate my cycle has masked this for MANY years.

Wish I had known then what I know now!
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