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Post by tracyg on Sat 16 Jan 2010 - 19:27

Hello all.

It's so great to finally find an adoption forum, where i can share my feelings and get information from people who are like-minded. This is great!

My DH and I have been TTC for about 2 years now. No BFP yet. Although both our hearts are very much for adoption. We are thinking about starting the process end of the year/ beginning of 2011. Between then and now, i want to get all the info and experience from others i can.

So this is me saying Girlie wave
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Post by Ilze on Sat 16 Jan 2010 - 20:15

Hi & welcome & good luck with your journey. All I can say is adoption is a very long and difficult journey.
Are you going for private adoption?
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Post by DJMommy on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 7:24

Hi and welcome! This lounge tends to get a bit quiet at times,but is slowly starting to build up! Good luck with your journey and hope to see you here often!

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Post by tracyg on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 8:35

Thanks Guys!

Eve: I guess its ok with the form being quiet, I like the fact that its a small group of people (more intimate in a way)

Ilse: Im not quite sure what the real difference or cost between private and (public?) adoption is... hopefully i'll learn that all on this forum. :Embarassed

From what i have read from Hannah - private sounds WAY more than DH and I can afford..
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Post by michmac on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 9:52

Hi Tracy

Welcome to the forum! Hope you find all the info you need, if you want any info just ask!

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Post by tracyg on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 12:25

Thanks Michmac. Smile

Is that profile pic a pic of your daughter? Is she also adopted?

She's so cute! :Yes
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Post by michmac on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 12:44

Thanks Tracy, yes that is my daughter Rebecca and she is adopted.
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Post by Pandora on Sun 17 Jan 2010 - 16:15

Hi Traci,

Welcome, I am also fairly new, only joined after we adoprted our daughter.

Michmac, the photo is too gourgeous! What a cutie pie.

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Post by Hannah's Hope on Mon 18 Jan 2010 - 16:11

Hi Traci,

Yes, private adoption is expensive BUT it depends completely on your circumstances. There's another lady on this forum that adopted a beautiful little girl for only R15 000 (but as I understand it she didn't carry any costs of the birtmother).

Welcome here and we are always here to answer any questions you may have. I have a 10-week old baby, so I'm not on all the time, but I definitely visit at least once a day, except over weekends.

A word of advice? Start the process sooner than later!

Warm regards,
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Post by tracyg on Mon 18 Jan 2010 - 16:25

Thanks so much Hannah!

R15 000 sounds a little more likely to JUST fit into my budget. Smile
Obviously that is including the hospital and birth costs, after the 60 days, when the child is legally yours, can you claim back some costs from a medical aid? Or am i pushing my luck?

Why do you say i should start it sooner than later?

I would if i could, but my flat just doesnt suit a baby, as it is very very small. I need to move and sort a few things out before it happens.

Surely when you adopt you need to show a budget that has enough free to take care of a baby person? Im a little far away from showing that kind of budget at the moment.

That pic of Jaedin "smiling" is SO adorable.
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Post by tracyg on Mon 18 Jan 2010 - 17:22

Umm... Someone on Parent24 said that the earliest you can adopt is 25 years old, and after 3 years of marriage.

I'll be 24 by the time we're ready to get the process rolling and will be married for 3 and a half years. My DH will be 29 by then.

Do you think they will discredit us because i'll be one year under the "age required"?

There isn't anything seriously wrong with either me nor DH, its just our hearts are very much for adoption. I've also always wanted to be a "younger mother" and have the ability to love something that isnt mine as if it were my own. So that is why we were looking at year end/begin of 2011.

Would the fact that we as a couple, might not actually have fertility issues, be just that - an issue? :Unsure
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Post by Lameez on Fri 29 Jan 2010 - 8:31

Welcome Tracy, sorry just saw this post now! Hope you enjoy your time here and I am sure you will get all the info you need
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Post by Sheena on Fri 29 Jan 2010 - 9:42

Welcome Tracty. You have come to the right place. I think Hannah and Michmac are pros on the adoption process, so you are in good hands here.
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Post by Adele on Fri 29 Jan 2010 - 13:13

Welcome Tracy. I see you are in Cape Town. WE have a get together tomorrow at Nino's Canal Walk. Michmac will also be there, You should join us tomorrow or otherwise some other time. Would like to meet you
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Post by Hannah's Hope on Sat 30 Jan 2010 - 10:55

Hi Tracy,

I will gladly share more info with regards to our personal journey with you. Please PM me or send an email to hannahshope@24.com.

Kind regards,
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