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Post by Carmen on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 10:03

Hi everyone,

I have read your threads and thought that I just have to join. You have been very informative and motivational with regards to adoption, thank you Thumbs Up

I have a quick question.

My husband and myself have started the adoption process. We attended the orientation meeting and have handed in our application forms. The social worker informed us that she will call us to start the screening part. This was 4 weeks ago, so my question is, does it usually take this long? Would it be wrong of me to keep calling her, as I do understand their work load is great.

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Post by Sheena on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 10:28

Welcome.... :Hi2: I am sure that Hannah will shed some light on this for you.

I hope that we can share the journey with you as we did with Hannah... man.. what an amazing journey! Good luck! :angelpray1:
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Post by Eileen on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 10:38

Oh good luck CLC!

I am not sure of the process but maybe just give her a call and ask roughly how long these things take. I am sure she will understand and once you have an answer you will know
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Post by michmac on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 10:43

Hi nice to meet you and welcome to the forum!

My suggestion would be to keep on phoning. I know the waiting is a killer but the best thing is to keep in contact with your social worker.

Good Luck and i promise you the wait is worth it in the long run!
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Post by Ilze on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 10:54

Welcome, hope your journey is not to long. But keep in touch with your SW. But remember with chrismas around the corner, not much would probably happen quikly.
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Post by Carmen on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 11:48

Thanks so much for your replies, they made me feel so much better Smile

I definately know that this is going to be such a long road. It's been emotionally taxing so far and it hasn't even really started :Unsure

Michmac: I would like to let you know that your story was so reassuring to me and just made me think WOW!! Thanks for sharing your story.
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Post by DJMommy on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 12:25

I dont have any advice but just wanted to welcome you!

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Post by Dooi on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 13:35

Hi girlie, me and dh also went through the first stages of adoption and it took forever, just be patient, live each day by day and don't put your hopes up that things will happen soon!! Holding all my thumbs for you!!!!

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Post by Carmen on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 13:53

Hi Dooi, thanks for your advise. I will try very hard to be patient Smile

Will keep all updated!!! Girlie wave
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Post by Nix1407 on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 15:05

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Post by Adele on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 15:08

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Post by Pandora on Wed 18 Nov 2009 - 16:57

Hi, I am also quite new to this forum. We adopted a little girl in June this year. We waited 5 years altogether, but it was so worth it. I phoned the SW a lot at the beginning, then sort of eased off. We had pretty much given up and were coming to terms with it when we got our call. Needless to say, it was a shock, but such a lovely one. We were able to pick up our angel 2 days later, she was 2 months old, and just smiled at us, and we fell in love. So no matter how long it takes, it is so worth it. Believe me. Just don't put your life on hold, we still made plans and continued as normal. Else I would have gone mad. I was completely unprepared, I owned 2 little baby jackets my sister had given me, just in case. I had one day to buy the basics, but we were then given so much stuff, and people were so thrilled and supportive. We were quite overwhelmed. So, as you are on this journey, you are not alone, there are so many others on it, just at different stages. Keep praying, keep hoping and remember you are not alone. Smiley

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Post by Carmen on Thu 19 Nov 2009 - 7:10

Thanks for your response Pandora Smiley

I actually got great news this morning! SW wants to see us on Monday for our interviews! I'm so relieved that it's all starting now Thumbs Up It's just another step forward to become a mommy!

I have realised that I do have to be patient and just carry on with life. Afterall we have tried for 14 years to have a baby, so I'm definately sure I can wait this out! whistle
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Post by DJMommy on Thu 19 Nov 2009 - 7:36

That is great hun!!! Hopefully you will be a mommy really soon! Please keep us updated on your progress

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Post by michmac on Thu 19 Nov 2009 - 8:15

That's great, good luck for Monday, am sure it will all go well!
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Post by Carmen on Thu 19 Nov 2009 - 9:00

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Post by Joleen on Thu 19 Nov 2009 - 12:21

you will get so much love and support from everyone here
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Post by Hannah's Hope on Fri 20 Nov 2009 - 7:46

Hallo CLC,

Sorry for only replying now, had a bit of a hectic 2 days with our newborn!

One thing I've learned on this adoption journey is that nobody is going to go out of their way to keep you informed or tell you what is going on all the time. That is your responsibility. We were registered with two private workers specialising in adoption and I had a permanent reminder on my cellphone to phone them once every two weeks. Of course this drove them nuts!!! But I promise you one thing, I was on their minds constantly and after a while they got used to me being on their case.

Unfortunately the screening process is a long and torturous affair. I always say it's so unfair: A 16-year old can fall pregnant on the backseat of a car and be deemed fit to be a mother but couples like ourselves have to be scrutinized before we are even considered for adoption. But hey, life’s not fair and you have to do what you have to do to get a baby.

I know the wait is long and the road is hard, but believe me, as my little boy is lying close to me whilst I'm writing this email, I can assure you that it is SO worth the wait. I can not describe to you the joy and fulfillment I have in my life because of him. He is absolutely the light of my life!! He was handed to us straight after he was lifted from his birthmom's tummy and he hasn't been out of sight eversince!

Trust God that there's a baby out there for you - whether he/she still has to be conceived, whether he/she is growing in another's woman's womb or whether he/she has already been born. God is good ALL the time - even when we are impatient and despondent.

Welcome to OPM. You will find that the women on here are absolutely and truly amazing woman.

Feel free to ask questions any time!!!

Warm regards
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Post by . on Mon 23 Nov 2009 - 18:00

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Post by Lilly on Mon 23 Nov 2009 - 18:03

Hi & welcome!!! Hope that you'll be blessed with a baby soon!!!!! xx
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Post by Kerryw on Mon 30 Nov 2009 - 6:54

HI welcome

Best of luck I am sure your LO is just waiting for you.
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